Be a doer, not a talker

OpenAI CEO Sam Altman在他30岁时,总结其过去十年中找到的值得传递的人生建议。

1)  Don’t lose touch with old friends.  Occasionally stay up until the sun rises talking to people.  Have parties.

宁愿有几个真正亲密的朋友,也不愿有一百个熟人。 不要与老朋友失去联系。 偶尔熬夜与人交谈直到太阳升起。 举办派对。

2) Life is not a dress rehearsal—this is probably it.  Make it count.  Time is extremely limited and goes by fast.  Do what makes you happy and fulfilled—few people get remembered hundreds of years after they die anyway.  Don’t do stuff that doesn’t make you happy (this happens most often when other people want you to do something).  Don’t spend time trying to maintain relationships with people you don’t like, and cut negative people out of your life.  Negativity is really bad.  Don’t let yourself make excuses for not doing the things you want to do.

生活不是彩排——也许就是这样。 让它算数。 时间极其有限,而且过得很快。 做让你快乐和满足的事情——无论如何,很少有人在死后几百年后还被人记住。 不要做不会让你快乐的事情(这种情况最常发生在其他人希望你做某事时)。 不要花时间试图与你不喜欢的人维持关系,并将消极的人从你的生活中剔除。 消极情绪真的很糟糕。 不要让自己为不做自己想做的事情找借口。

3) How to succeed: pick the right thing to do (this is critical and usually ignored), focus, believe in yourself (especially when others tell you it’s not going to work), develop personal connections with people that will help you, learn to identify talented people, and work hard.  It’s hard to identify what to work on because original thought is hard.

如何成功:选择正确的事情去做(这一点很关键,但通常被忽视)、专注、相信自己(尤其是当别人告诉你这行不通时)、与能帮助你的人建立个人联系、学习 识别人才,努力工作。 很难确定要做什么,因为原创想法很难。

4) On work: it’s difficult to do a great job on work you don’t care about.  And it’s hard to be totally happy/fulfilled in life if you don’t like what you do for your work.  Work very hard—a surprising number of people will be offended that you choose to work hard—but not so hard that the rest of your life passes you by.  Aim to be the best in the world at whatever you do professionally.  Even if you miss, you’ll probably end up in a pretty good place.  Figure out your own productivity system—don’t waste time being unorganized, working at suboptimal times, etc.  Don’t be afraid to take some career risks, especially early on.  Most people pick their career fairly randomly—really think hard about what you like, what fields are going to be successful, and try to talk to people in those fields.

工作上:你不关心的工作是很难做好的。 如果你不喜欢你所做的工作,你就很难在生活中完全快乐/满足。 非常努力地工作——很多人会因为你选择努力工作而感到生气——但不要努力到让你的余生与你擦肩而过。 无论你从事什么职业,目标都是成为世界上最好的。 即使你错过了,你也可能会到达一个非常好的地方。 找出你自己的生产力系统——不要把时间浪费在无组织性、在次优时间工作等方面。不要害怕承担一些职业风险,尤其是在早期。 大多数人选择自己的职业相当随机——认真思考你喜欢什么,什么领域会成功,并尝试与这些领域的人交谈。

5) On money: Whether or not money can buy happiness, it can buy freedom, and that’s a big deal.  Also, lack of money is very stressful.  In almost all ways, having enough money so that you don’t stress about paying rent does more to change your wellbeing than having enough money to buy your own jet.  Making money is often more fun than spending it, though I personally have never regretted money I’ve spent on friends, new experiences, saving time, travel, and causes I believe in.

关于金钱:无论金钱是否能买到幸福,它能买到自由,这是一件大事。 另外,缺钱也是一个很大的压力。 几乎在所有方面,拥有足够的钱让你不用担心支付房租,比拥有足够的钱购买自己的飞机更能改变你的幸福感。 赚钱往往比花钱更有趣,尽管我个人从来没有后悔过把钱花在朋友、新体验、节省时间、旅行和我相信的事业上。

6) Talk to people more.  Read more long content and less tweets.  Watch less TV.  Spend less time on the Internet.

多与人交谈。 多阅读长内容,少阅读推文。 少看电视。 花更少的时间上网。

7) Don’t waste time.  Most people waste most of their time, especially in business.

不要浪费时间。 大多数人都浪费了大部分时间,尤其是在生意上。

8) Don’t let yourself get pushed around.  As Paul Graham once said to me, “People can become formidable, but it’s hard to predict who”.  (There is a big difference between confident and arrogant.  Aim for the former, obviously.)

不要让自己被人摆布。 正如保罗·格雷厄姆曾经对我说的那样,“人们可以变得强大,但很难预测是谁”。 (自信和傲慢之间有很大区别。显然,瞄准前者。)

9) Have clear goals for yourself every day, every year, and every decade.


10) However, as valuable as planning is, if a great opportunity comes along you should take it.  Don’t be afraid to do something slightly reckless.  One of the benefits of working hard is that good opportunities will come along, but it’s still up to you to jump on them when they do.

然而,尽管计划很有价值,但如果有一个很好的机会出现,你就应该抓住它。 不要害怕做一些鲁莽的事情。 努力工作的好处之一是,好的机会会随之而来,但当它们出现时,你仍然需要抓住它们。

11) Go out of your way to be around smart, interesting, ambitious people.  Work for them and hire them (in fact, one of the most satisfying parts of work is forging deep relationships with really good people).  Try to spend time with people who are either among the best in the world at what they do or extremely promising but totally unknown.  It really is true that you become an average of the people you spend the most time with.

竭尽全力与聪明、有趣、雄心勃勃的人在一起。 为他们工作并雇用他们(事实上,工作中最令人满意的部分之一就是与真正优秀的人建立深厚的关系)。 尝试与那些在其所在领域处于世界最佳水平或非常有前途但完全不为人知的人共度时光。 确实,你会成为与你相处最多的人的平均水平。

12) Minimize your own cognitive load from distracting things that don’t really matter.  It’s hard to overstate how important this is, and how bad most people are at it.  Get rid of distractions in your life.  Develop very strong ways to avoid letting crap you don’t like doing pile up and take your mental cycles, especially in your work life.

尽量减少自己的认知负担,避免让那些无关紧要的事情分散注意力。 很难夸大这一点的重要性,以及大多数人在这方面的表现有多么糟糕。 摆脱生活中的干扰。 制定非常强有力的方法来避免让你不喜欢做的废话堆积起来并影响你的心理周期,尤其是在你的工作生活中。

13) Keep your personal burn rate low.  This alone will give you a lot of opportunities in life.

保持较低的个人消耗率。 仅这一点就会给你的生活带来很多机会。

14) Summers are the best.


15) Don’t worry so much.  Things in life are rarely as risky as they seem.  Most people are too risk-averse, and so most advice is biased too much towards conservative paths.

别太担心。 生活中的事情很少像看起来那么危险。 大多数人都过于规避风险,因此大多数建议都过于偏向保守路线。

16) Ask for what you want.  


17) If you think you’re going to regret not doing something, you should probably do it.  Regret is the worst, and most people regret far more things they didn’t do than things they did do.  When in doubt, kiss the boy/girl.

如果你认为不做某件事你会后悔,你也许应该去做。 遗憾是最糟糕的,大多数人对自己没有做的事情的后悔远远多于对做过的事情的后悔。 如有疑问,请亲吻男孩/女孩。

18) Exercise.  Eat well.  Sleep.  Get out into nature with some regularity.


19) Go out of your way to help people.  Few things in life are as satisfying.  Be nice to strangers.  Be nice even when it doesn’t matter.

竭尽全力帮助别人。 生活中很少有事情能如此令人满意。 对陌生人友善。 即使无关紧要,也要保持友善。

20) Youth is a really great thing.  Don’t waste it.  In fact, in your 20s, I think it’s ok to take a “Give me financial discipline, but not just yet” attitude.  All the money in the world will never get back time that passed you by.

青春真是一件伟大的事情。 不要浪费它。 事实上,在你 20 多岁的时候,我认为采取“给我财务纪律,但不是现在”的态度是可以的。 世界上所有的钱都无法挽回逝去的时光。

21) Tell your parents you love them more often.  Go home and visit as often as you can.

经常告诉你的父母你爱他们。 尽可能多回家探望。

22) This too shall pass.


23) Learn voraciously.


24) Do new things often.  Not only does doing new things seem to slow down the perception of time, increase happiness, and keep life interesting, but it seems to prevent people from calcifying in the ways that they think.  Aim to do something big, new, and risky every year in your personal and professional life.

经常做新事情。 做新事物似乎不仅可以减缓人们对时间的感知,增加幸福感,让生活变得有趣,而且似乎可以防止人们的思维方式僵化。 目标是在你的个人和职业生活中每年都做一些大的、新的和有风险的事情。

25) Remember how intensely you loved your boyfriend/girlfriend when you were a teenager?  Love him/her that intensely now.  Remember how excited and happy you got about stuff as a kid?  Get that excited and happy now.

还记得你十几岁的时候有多强烈地爱你的男朋友/女朋友吗? 现在如此强烈地爱他/她。 还记得小时候你对事物感到多么兴奋和快乐吗? 现在就变得兴奋和快乐。

26) Don’t screw people and don’t burn bridges.  Pick your battles carefully.

不要坑人,也不要过河拆桥。 仔细选择你的战斗。

27) Forgive people.


28) Don’t chase status.  Status without substance doesn’t work for long and is unfulfilling.

不要追逐地位。 没有实质内容的地位不会长久,也不会让人有成就感。

29) Most things are ok in moderation.  Almost nothing is ok in extreme amounts.

大多数事情只要适度就可以了。 几乎没有什么事情是可以达到极端的。

30) Existential angst is part of life.  It is particularly noticeable around major life events or just after major career milestones.  It seems to particularly affect smart, ambitious people.  I think one of the reasons some people work so hard is so they don’t have to spend too much time thinking about this.  Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way; you are not alone.

存在焦虑是生活的一部分。 在重大生活事件或重大职业里程碑之后尤其明显。 它似乎特别影响聪明、雄心勃勃的人。 我认为有些人如此努力工作的原因之一是他们不必花太多时间思考这个问题。 你有这样的感觉并没有什么问题; 你并不孤单。

31) Be grateful and keep problems in perspective.  Don’t complain too much.  Don’t hate other people’s success (but remember that some people will hate your success, and you have to learn to ignore it).

心存感激,正确看待问题。 不要抱怨太多。 不要讨厌别人的成功(但请记住,有些人会讨厌你的成功,你必须学会忽略它)。

32) Be a doer, not a talker.


33) Given enough time, it is possible to adjust to almost anything, good or bad.  Humans are remarkable at this.

只要有足够的时间,几乎任何事情都可以适应,无论好坏。 人类在这方面是很了不起的。

34) Think for a few seconds before you act.  Think for a few minutes if you’re angry.

行动前先思考几秒钟。 如果你生气了,想几分钟。

35) Don’t judge other people too quickly.  You never know their whole story and why they did or didn’t do something.  Be empathetic.

不要太快地评判别人。 你永远不知道他们的整个故事以及他们为什么做或不做某事。 要有同理心。

36) The days are long but the decades are short.




The days are long but the decades are short